So I didn’t get a chance to talk about someone who is really skilled at matching the emotions of people around him. If you didn’t get a chance to listen to my talk about matching emotions you can listen to it here.
The goal is to match emotions with someone in your life so that their brain doesn’t see us as a threat. I saw this post recently and thought: Does this response lead to wellness? Does this response lead to a healthy relationship? Or does this response lead to resentment?
So I wanted to talk about someone most of you know who does this really well, and I couldn’t think of anyone better skilled at this than my colleague Jeff.
For any of us who have heard Jeff speak, we know that he is willing to feel whatever he wants us to feel – as deeply as we are willing to feel it, he is right there with us. There is no sense of us out on an emotional limb that Jeff is unwilling or unable to go. He is always right there with us.
I think Jeff has honed his limbic system to such a degree that he makes us feel safe to feel the things we need to feel when he is talking. But I also think we can learn from him. Because I can tell you from seeing it first hand that Jeff is able match emotions with almost anything you bring him. And, as a result I think, he has been the go-to person for many – to share the stuff they don’t think they can share with anyone else. In a word, Jeff feels safe.
Safe – maybe something that would help us in many other relationships in our lives!?!
So my hat off to Jeff, thanks for showing us how its done!
-Vince