Speaker: Vince Klassen
It's the first Sunday in December. Its the beginning of the Xmas run. Some of us are excited. And some of us are dreading it. The newest research in psychology seems to tell us that our dread makes perfect sense. For some, that's comforting….to know that we are not crazy. But no matter how you react to the impending season of parties and gathering and get togethers and so forth, I think we can make this season less draining, and dare I say energizing? And not only that, I think this work has the potential to revitalize our spirituality. If nothing else, this one will make you be mindful.
Reference Materials:
If you want to get a sense of your attachment style:
Simple Attachment Type Quiz – http://personality-testing.info/tests/ECR.php
A fantastic book that tells the history of attachment but more importantly, helps you work through your attachment issues with your primary partner. I got the initial example from this book.
Love Sense by Dr. Sue Johnson – http://www.amazon.ca/Love-Sense-Revolutionary-Romantic-Relationships/dp/0316133760/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1448931322&sr=8-1&keywords=love+sense
One of our favorite resources for adults in what he calls primary attachment relationships. This is a must listen (it's only in audio form)
Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin (please note he uses our old language. So Island = Avoidant; Wave = Anxious; Anchor = Secure) – http://www.audible.com/pd/Science-Technology/Wired-for-Love-Audiobook/B016WTDRKM?source_code=GPAGBSH0508140001&mkwid=s0JRjSof1_dc&pcrid=87217303089&pmt=b&pkw=_cat%3Aaudible.com&source_code=GO1GBSH12101490AE&gclid=CPy_pfm5uckCFcVffgodIDoAVg
Fun extra reading
Attachment and relation to False Self – http://www.researchgate.net/c/nuikok/javascript/lib/pdfjs/web/viewer.html?file=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.researchgate.net%2Fprofile%2FChristine_Selby%2Fpublication%2F34033503_The_relationship_of_false_self_behavior_to_object_relations_attachment_and_adjustment_electronic_resource_%2Flinks%2F5404e29e0cf23d9765a6cd63.pdf%3FinViewer%3D1%26disableCoverPage%3Dtrue%26origin%3Dpublication_detail
Bible passages used:
Mark 12:31
Video clips used: Parenthood – No Harm Done